I'm Sorry I Doubted You

Having navigated from girls to women, we have all had a few moments, well plenty of moments when we have had some serious doubt about something. We kind of give the side eye look, turned up lip look, hands on the waist blank stare look when we are in serious doubt. I can remember lots of times when I didn’t believe my mom about one thing or another. I would engage in long debates, professing my all knowing brain of ides insisting that she could not possibly know what she was talking about. Never mind her multiple YEARS of experience in every topic imaginable, yet I still doubted the perfection of her knowledge and skills. So, today my 7 year old gave me a little dose of that old medicine. Yep, she sure did. I excitedly told her after summer camp that I was going to make her favorite meal, shrimp and pasta. She had no comment. I looked at her in the rear view mirror. Sure fire doubt, the blank stare is what I got. “Can’t we just go to Olive Garden” was her reply. So, although a little shocked to say the least, I had to put my foot down and insist…NO Olive Garden because I knew how to fix the dish, right? The pouting ensued the entire way home…I hoped and prayed to myself that it would turn out, since it was my first time making this. Yikes! Maybe I should have stopped at Olive Garden. Wow, now I doubted myself in anticipation of an “I told you so look” from you know who. So, as the food critic sits at the table eating a snack and watching SpongeBob, I am carefully preparing what will either be her favorite dish or the thing that will cause her to give me the turned up lip look and I really didn’t want that. After careful preparation, dinner was ready. In my proud mommy moment, I presented dinner to my girl with a half French accented VOILA! The look in those eyes and squeal of excitement confirmed that yes, I had succeeded. As my daughter sat across the table she put her fork down, came over and gave me a hug and said “I’m sorry I doubted you mommy.” I was actually surprised considering 7 year olds can be very self centered in their own little worlds. She repeated herself to ensure that I heard her and I let her know all was well…enjoy. My take away…be open to change, try new things and even when there is doubt in the air…just do it …you may surprise yourself and your loved ones. Today, my daughter and I learned patience and although we both had very different thoughts on which path to take, we both ended up at the same destination, enjoying a yummy dinner. Hmmm, I will have to remind myself of this when she approaches the teenage years. There’s a lesson in everything.It was delicious…

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  1. Rosemary Clark says:

    Great Job Crystal! you too Jasmine!

  2. Kim Dillard says:

    That is so beautiful,truly heartfelt. We as woman must continue to encourage one another and allow our light to shine for the up and coming generation of women. We must teach each other how to treat each other for the sake of sisterhood. God blessed us with nurturing loving hearts and we must exercise with all women,instead of throwing shade ,throw some sun shine.

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